It shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone, my love for kids. I've been there done that. I've been the babysitter, the nanny, the "mom". I get it! They crack me up and are so adorable. Yes I am currently expected my first child, a girl named Sofia. They are the perfect little creations that we have produced. They can brighten up our lives and bring smiles to our faces when all hope is lost. They make me feel like a kid again, and remember what it was truly like to be innocent.
I do however take issue when it come to public spaces. Yes, you have a child and you have a right to take them where you want to. Everyone has there own opinions on the matter, but I'm going to share with you mine. I would like to pose this quick question, what happen to the times of adult time and finding a babysitter? What happen to those days? I hate it when I go to the movies and there is a baby or child making noises( its inevitable) and for that matter adults who just can't shut up. Do you see this turning out ok for the rest of the theater, I don't. I won't ever be bringing my baby to the movies. I can perhaps see and probably will engaged in taking older children to see movies that are appropriate for them. If its a child's movie, why yes by all mean bring your spawn.
Restaurants! Can I eat my meal in piece. No I don't think its cool that your child is standing in the booth turned around and playing in my hair. No I don't its ok for your kid to throw a fit, and start screaming while I'm trying to enjoy my dinner. Again, if we are at Chuckie Cheese, or any other "child friendly" place, I have no issue. Its designed for children, no reason for me to be upset.
Church... I recently informed my family I will not be taking Sofia to Mass until she is old enough to control her behavior. I have sat in church one to many times with misbehaving children and whining babies. Honestly it's not the baby's fault, they can't help that they are hungry, need to be changed or any of the other things that can cause a baby to be upset. It is however amazing to me that people think its ok for me to hear their kids scream when I'm trying to listen to Father. I came to mass to hear the word, not to be distracted but a child playing around and not even understanding what's going on. My college Religion Professor Allan Eckellman, said the biggest mistake Christan's make is introducing their child to the church. Honestly, I have to agree with him. How can a person really be intunned with God, if this is what they have been conditioned to believe since birth. I will be introducing Miss Sofia, to different religions, however. I want her to be able to understand and respect another persons way of life. I think there is very low tolerance for what is unknown to us. Its becoming very apparent in the world today.
Events ( weddings, baby showers, parties etc) I think its very important to follow directions given to you by the person giving that event. If they tell you where they are registered, then that's what they want. Not what you want to give them (unless its money, no one has a problem with money). If it says ADULTS ONLY, then that's what it means, it doesn't mean , well I'm family they weren't talking to me, or we're really close. It means just that. I was having a conversation the other day and I mentioned that I wanted for both my baby shower and wedding to be children free. Well someone thought that it was appropriate for them to say " Well I'm bringing my baby" REALLY, YOU ARE! Well I guess who cares what the honoree wants. I said what I want and that's what I want.
Now my wedding has been in the works since I was about 4 years old. I have dreamed and dreamed about it. I also want this event to be child free. Someone said, "well you will have a child of your own" you are correct, I will have one and i will also have a babysitter and one for the rest of the wedding party that concists of children. I want adults to feel free of time restraints and for guest to be able to not have to worry about watching their kids and worrying about whether they are pulling decorations down or anything else of that matter.
I guess my question is, If I can follow the rules, why can't you. Again, if there is not indication other wise that children aren't barred from such events, then there is not really an issue. There are however, some places where parents need to act in a swiftly manner and head to the door with there little distractions.
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